Yesterday I mentioned that I would be sharing info from two people that I respect and admire. I used the term credibility. When I think of Carol that is the term that comes to mind. She has a long list of successes to her career. When it comes to professionalism Carol stands above the rest of the field. Her insights are right on target.
In 1988, I was living with a friend of mine on Long Island in a Town that most folks know of, Amityville! Early on a Saturday evening I had just returned from a self-help meeting. My friends phone began to ring, typically I would not answer it. But, for some reason I picked up the phone. It was a young lady that I knew from the meetings. She sounded frantic. She was on the verge of tears. I remember after she calmed a bit she said, Dan, I don’t know if you know this or not but I am in O.A. Over Eaters Anonymous.
She then said, “Dan, I am at the Diner”! Visions of a fellow alcoholic sitting in a bar with a beer and a shot in front of her flashed before my eyes! I said, don’t do anything I will be right there. She began to laugh and said, “no, Dan it is not an emergency. I need to eat my vegetable and I just do not want to, I really just needed to tell someone and could not reach my sponsor”!
Enjoy the message:
It is a well-known fact that both anorexia and bulimia are on the rise in societies that measure success and sexiness by physical body proportions.
Both as a publisher/professional writer and certified hypnotherapist actively participating in Arizona’s Professional Hypnosis organization, I’ve collected a number of stories about eating addictions and disorders that will one day be compiled into a book.
I’m also encouraging others to send me their own stories about creating and recovering from that downward spiral of feeling (not good enough, ignored, rejected, unattractive, etc.).
Self-discovery and recovery are twin souls
A young woman (Katie) from a rural Midwestern community, married (Chris) shortly after she graduated from college. The marriage required forfeiting of a scholarship to one of the finest art institutes in the world.
Immediately Katie was thrust into a “Palm Beach” social life that required designer gowns and a heavily booked schedule of events with people who had little understanding or appreciation for art.
Katie was bored by small talk and privately resented foolish comments about art and artists that often flew her way either accidentally or sometimes on purpose. Her new husband had been one of the most eligible bachelors in the Social Register. “Why had he chosen a dairy queen?” wondered jealous females-in-waiting.
Chris had chosen Katie because he was fascinated by her freshness and sparkle; they’d met at a friend’s summer cottage and the romance had blossomed into a marriage proposal. Although he didn’t know much about art, Chris loved her passion for painting and understood passion; he had his own passion for sailing.
Katie married Chris because he had promised her he would open an art gallery for her in Palm Beach and find buyers and patrons, get other museum and gallery shows for her, etc.
Deep down, this “free ride to fame” made Katie feel guilty. Did she really love Chris or his money and social position?
They were so busy with social life in New York and Palm Beach… and then there were business trips, long holiday weekends and cruises… One of these days, children might start coming along; family required obligations. Katie did not want to be an absentee mother.
According to the doctor’s charts, Katie’s weight was normal for a person with her bone structure. Society women fashioned their bodies after runway models, since those were the gowns and other outfits they would most likely purchase for the next Palm Beach Event.
Katie’s mirror declared she was obese. As soon as the parties began and Katie sized herself up against her new debutante “girlfriends,” she started to believe she had a weight problem. Many of these girls were twigs compared to her. Several had modeled designer clothing in fashionable magazines that took advantage of the double dip of Society & Fashion to increase their sales.
Katie told herself she didn’t qualify. She was a country bumpkin; they were right. The anorexia and bulimia syndrome started gradually and soon became a habit. Katie would seem to eat normally like everyone else, but in the privacy of her home, when no one was looking…
Ask and it will be given
Chris had an older sister, Tamar, who had always danced to a different drummer. Tamar had chosen to become a hypnotherapist and soon she had a thriving Manhattan practice. Although Tamar knew better than to talk publicly about mind-body breakthroughs with chronic and acute illnesses, she had in fact, helped many of her clients heal themselves and their lives... and get off the meds. In her practice she also dealt with anorexia and bulimia, substance abuse, pain management, weight management and relationship issues.
Tamar loved Katie; they became true sisters as soon as they met. Tamar perceived that although her brother really did adore Katie, he was clueless about what really made his wife happy.
When Katie started to look too thin and she started to pass up almost all food at social events, Tamar, home for the holidays, picked up the signals. Then Katie, already frail and afraid to eat during pregnancy, miscarried. Tamar invited Katie to visit her for a weekend.
Counseling accompanied by hypnotherapy with Katie’s permission brought forth Katie’s feelings of insecurity, anger and resentment. The two also discussed Katie’s goals and her passion for painting—how the marriage had been obstructing this basic need for self-expression.
The marriage did not survive, although Tamar and Katie’s friendship did. Today, Katie is an award-winning artist, happily married with two children—and she is also a health and fitness enthusiast.
If you are a therapist, please send me your breakthrough recovery stories. Or perhaps you would like to work with me to develop your own book. These stories are so important and I’m here to help you—help us--get the message out that we don’t have to be sick or experience feelings of lack, loneliness, despair… you know the list!
Author's Bio
Carol Adler, MFA is the SelfGrowth.com official guide to publishing.
Carol's first ghost-written book listing her name as co-editor, Why Am I Still Addicted? A Holistic Approach to Recovery, was endorsed by Deepak Chopra, M.D., and published by McGraw-Hill. Other publications include three novels, four books of poetry, and well over 200 poems in literary journals. She has ghostwritten over 40 non-fiction and fiction works for a number of professionals in the education, health care and human potential industries.
Carol is President of Dandelion Books, LLC of Tempe, Arizona; a full service publishing company. She is also President and CEO of Dandelion Enterprises, Inc., Write to Publish for Profit and President of the International Arts & Media Foundation, a non-profit subsidiary of Dandelion Enterprises, Inc.
Her business experience includes co-ownership of a Palm Beach, FL public relations company and executive management positions in two U.S. rejuvenation and mind/body wellness corporations, for which she founded publishing divisions.
Carol has served as editor of several poetry and literary magazines. Her career experience includes extensive teaching of college-level creative and business writing, and conducting of writing workshops in prisons, libraries, elementary, junior and high schools, and senior citizen centers.
The Last Resort Panama, Drug and Alcohol Rehab www.Thelastresortpa.com www.facebook.com/thelastresortpa www.myspace.com/thelastresortpa www.myspace.com/tlrpa
Tuesday, September 16, 2008
Monday, September 15, 2008
Dr. Joe Rubino, Self Esteem Expert...
Today and tomorrow I am sharing info from two people that I respect and admire. They both are on top of their games. They know their business and they are professional, courteous, and prompt. These are traits that are rare these days. I have never met either one of these folks face to face. Yet I do not hesitate to recommend them to you. That is confidence in them!
I made a decision when I began to Blog. I committed to myself that I would not Blog on any product or service unless I personally utilized that service. If for some reason I felt the info was important to share in a timely fashion that I would share the info with a disclaimer that I have not utilized the service yet. I also committed to refuse any compensation for the service. In fact, when we have been approached to act as an affiliate we have simply requested that any compensation that would be paid to us would be given to charity.
I tell you this because it lends to the credibility of our recommendations that we make. Today’s message is from Dr. Joe Rubino. I met Joe on SelfGrowth.com. I subscribed to his Newsletter and Self Esteem Course. I have found that his newsletter is one of the best. It is simple and easy to read and follow. He does not send a bunch of useless junk my way. Often folks in recovery think that they are different from the rest of the world. Read Joe’s work and you will realize that we are no different from any one else. Joe’s work is not exclusive to the recovering individual, yet it rings home many of the same exercises and techniques we teach.
Joe has graciously accepted an invitation to offer a one-hour tele-web-seminar for the Recovery Center at an unbelievable rate for us. If you would like to join us on October 1, 2008 at 10 AM please send me an e-mail and I will give you the details. There is no expense to you, however, The Last Resort Panama is purchasing Joe’s program for each of our rehab guests in addition to the seminar rate. If you choose to receive the program it is $37. This is not a sales seminar it is content based. The Last Resort Panama does not receive any compensation for this event.
Enjoy the message:
This is Joe Rubino and I'm writing today to focus your awareness on the source of your actions. As human beings, we operate daily reflecting a wide range of emotions with a multitude of motivations fueling our behaviors. All too often, we react emotionally to what others say or do. If our reactions are preceded by the emotions of fear, anger, or sadness, we forfeit our ability to act with personal power and effectiveness in lieu of a knee-jerk response. This reaction is all too often sourced in fear and low self-esteem.
We may focus on what's wrong with us and our lives or fear being controlled, hurt, or taken advantage of. We may overlook the many things we have in our lives for which we should rightly be grateful. When we doubt our ability to thrive and access the abundance we see all around us in the world, we react instead from the concern of scarcity and the expectation of failure, hurt, and disappointment. We may see ourselves in competition for the world's resources and the love and attention of others rather than realizing that there is more than enough of all that is good to go around. We forget that we manifest what we expect rather than needing to compete for limited resources.
Whenever we forget that we are magnificent beings and that there is plenty of wealth, happiness, fun, and fulfillment to go around, we might feel the need to protect ourselves from what we perceive to be a dangerous world. We likewise tend to forget that others operate from the same lacking self-confidence, scarcity of gratitude, and deficient self-love that we often do. So, whenever two or more individuals see themselves as not good enough to tap into the world's abundance and get all their needs met from a physical, social, mental, and emotional perspective, conflicts are likely to arise. The result is broken relationships, strained communication, emotional pain, struggle, and suffering. All of these are needless and optional for those who realize their ability to detach from the struggle and master their emotional response.
When we stop to realize that everyone else suffers from the same self-doubt and fear of being dominated and cheated out of getting their fair share of love, fun, money, possessions, and security, we can break the vicious cycle of endless competition and continual striving for domination. We can realize that cooperation and communication is more effective in producing harmony than competition and a focus on self-interest based on fear. We can intentionally choose to trust that others are doing the best they know how to do based upon how they see the world. We can assume that they act from good intentions, even when we fear the opposite.
We can hold them as worthy, competent, loving, good natured and capable of creating win-win relationships rather than fearing them as hateful, ill meaning, incompetent, unworthy, selfish opponents.
When we decide to champion others by looking for the best in them and interact with them out of an attitude of gratitude for their gifts, strengths, and positive qualities, in such as manner that they are clear that we hold them as intrinsically good and worthy of our love and respect, we provide for them a new and exciting opportunity for them to show up for us in this manner. Our decision to hold others as great (because they really are when we strip away their anger, fears, and insecurities) allows them the freedom to rise to our expectations. By operating from love and gratitude for the wisdom and empathy we develop as a result of our interactions with others, we see their mistakes as temporary indiscretions producing valuable lessons from which to learn and grow rather than reflections of a fundamentally defective being.
The key to bringing out the best in others is non-attachment. When we realize that we have total control over our response to any situation, and we give up our right to be invalidated by others or control them, we will possess a newfound freedom that allows us to exit the drama of conflict in favor of understanding, compassion, and love. Decide now to be grateful for the challenges you will encounter in your life and business. See the problems that arise as opportunities for your personal development. Look for these challenges as you go about your day, be grateful when you encounter them, and seek out the gifts awaiting your discovery.
Exercise for Expanding Gratitude and Shifting Your Reactive Nature
1. List all the things you have decided to be grateful for in your life and business.
2. In your daily journal, record each time you fail to express gratitude for a challenging situation.
3. Catch yourself reacting emotionally to what someone says or does and shift your perception in that moment to appreciate the learning experience at hand.
4. In your daily life and business, who are you not holding as magnificent?
5. How can you champion their excellence and express gratitude for the opportunity to grow in love and wisdom that they are gifting you instead of reacting with anger, sadness, or fear?
6. Who are you seeking to control or avoid being controlled by?
Will you take on the practice of non-attachment in your relationship with them by creating space for them to be who they are? Do this for 30 days and record in your journal how your interactions with them evolve. Make note of something that you can be grateful for in each situation.
Dr. Joe Rubino is a life-changing life optimization and business coach and the best-selling author of TheSelfEsteemBook.com and 11 other transformational books available worldwide in 19 languages.
To receive a complimentary audio program entitled "7 Steps to
Soaring Self-Esteem" and a free 1-year membership in The Success
Achievers' Club ($129 value), visit
http://www.TheSelfEsteemSystem.com/1
For more information on his books, audios, and coaching program, visit
http://www.CenterForPersonalReinvention.com or email him at DrJoeRubino@CenterForPersonalReinvention.com
The Last Resort Panama, Drug and Alcohol Rehab www.Thelastresortpa.com www.facebook.com/thelastresortpa www.myspace.com/thelastresortpa www.myspace.com/tlrpa
I made a decision when I began to Blog. I committed to myself that I would not Blog on any product or service unless I personally utilized that service. If for some reason I felt the info was important to share in a timely fashion that I would share the info with a disclaimer that I have not utilized the service yet. I also committed to refuse any compensation for the service. In fact, when we have been approached to act as an affiliate we have simply requested that any compensation that would be paid to us would be given to charity.
I tell you this because it lends to the credibility of our recommendations that we make. Today’s message is from Dr. Joe Rubino. I met Joe on SelfGrowth.com. I subscribed to his Newsletter and Self Esteem Course. I have found that his newsletter is one of the best. It is simple and easy to read and follow. He does not send a bunch of useless junk my way. Often folks in recovery think that they are different from the rest of the world. Read Joe’s work and you will realize that we are no different from any one else. Joe’s work is not exclusive to the recovering individual, yet it rings home many of the same exercises and techniques we teach.
Joe has graciously accepted an invitation to offer a one-hour tele-web-seminar for the Recovery Center at an unbelievable rate for us. If you would like to join us on October 1, 2008 at 10 AM please send me an e-mail and I will give you the details. There is no expense to you, however, The Last Resort Panama is purchasing Joe’s program for each of our rehab guests in addition to the seminar rate. If you choose to receive the program it is $37. This is not a sales seminar it is content based. The Last Resort Panama does not receive any compensation for this event.
Enjoy the message:
This is Joe Rubino and I'm writing today to focus your awareness on the source of your actions. As human beings, we operate daily reflecting a wide range of emotions with a multitude of motivations fueling our behaviors. All too often, we react emotionally to what others say or do. If our reactions are preceded by the emotions of fear, anger, or sadness, we forfeit our ability to act with personal power and effectiveness in lieu of a knee-jerk response. This reaction is all too often sourced in fear and low self-esteem.
We may focus on what's wrong with us and our lives or fear being controlled, hurt, or taken advantage of. We may overlook the many things we have in our lives for which we should rightly be grateful. When we doubt our ability to thrive and access the abundance we see all around us in the world, we react instead from the concern of scarcity and the expectation of failure, hurt, and disappointment. We may see ourselves in competition for the world's resources and the love and attention of others rather than realizing that there is more than enough of all that is good to go around. We forget that we manifest what we expect rather than needing to compete for limited resources.
Whenever we forget that we are magnificent beings and that there is plenty of wealth, happiness, fun, and fulfillment to go around, we might feel the need to protect ourselves from what we perceive to be a dangerous world. We likewise tend to forget that others operate from the same lacking self-confidence, scarcity of gratitude, and deficient self-love that we often do. So, whenever two or more individuals see themselves as not good enough to tap into the world's abundance and get all their needs met from a physical, social, mental, and emotional perspective, conflicts are likely to arise. The result is broken relationships, strained communication, emotional pain, struggle, and suffering. All of these are needless and optional for those who realize their ability to detach from the struggle and master their emotional response.
When we stop to realize that everyone else suffers from the same self-doubt and fear of being dominated and cheated out of getting their fair share of love, fun, money, possessions, and security, we can break the vicious cycle of endless competition and continual striving for domination. We can realize that cooperation and communication is more effective in producing harmony than competition and a focus on self-interest based on fear. We can intentionally choose to trust that others are doing the best they know how to do based upon how they see the world. We can assume that they act from good intentions, even when we fear the opposite.
We can hold them as worthy, competent, loving, good natured and capable of creating win-win relationships rather than fearing them as hateful, ill meaning, incompetent, unworthy, selfish opponents.
When we decide to champion others by looking for the best in them and interact with them out of an attitude of gratitude for their gifts, strengths, and positive qualities, in such as manner that they are clear that we hold them as intrinsically good and worthy of our love and respect, we provide for them a new and exciting opportunity for them to show up for us in this manner. Our decision to hold others as great (because they really are when we strip away their anger, fears, and insecurities) allows them the freedom to rise to our expectations. By operating from love and gratitude for the wisdom and empathy we develop as a result of our interactions with others, we see their mistakes as temporary indiscretions producing valuable lessons from which to learn and grow rather than reflections of a fundamentally defective being.
The key to bringing out the best in others is non-attachment. When we realize that we have total control over our response to any situation, and we give up our right to be invalidated by others or control them, we will possess a newfound freedom that allows us to exit the drama of conflict in favor of understanding, compassion, and love. Decide now to be grateful for the challenges you will encounter in your life and business. See the problems that arise as opportunities for your personal development. Look for these challenges as you go about your day, be grateful when you encounter them, and seek out the gifts awaiting your discovery.
Exercise for Expanding Gratitude and Shifting Your Reactive Nature
1. List all the things you have decided to be grateful for in your life and business.
2. In your daily journal, record each time you fail to express gratitude for a challenging situation.
3. Catch yourself reacting emotionally to what someone says or does and shift your perception in that moment to appreciate the learning experience at hand.
4. In your daily life and business, who are you not holding as magnificent?
5. How can you champion their excellence and express gratitude for the opportunity to grow in love and wisdom that they are gifting you instead of reacting with anger, sadness, or fear?
6. Who are you seeking to control or avoid being controlled by?
Will you take on the practice of non-attachment in your relationship with them by creating space for them to be who they are? Do this for 30 days and record in your journal how your interactions with them evolve. Make note of something that you can be grateful for in each situation.
Dr. Joe Rubino is a life-changing life optimization and business coach and the best-selling author of TheSelfEsteemBook.com and 11 other transformational books available worldwide in 19 languages.
To receive a complimentary audio program entitled "7 Steps to
Soaring Self-Esteem" and a free 1-year membership in The Success
Achievers' Club ($129 value), visit
http://www.TheSelfEsteemSystem.com/1
For more information on his books, audios, and coaching program, visit
http://www.CenterForPersonalReinvention.com or email him at DrJoeRubino@CenterForPersonalReinvention.com
The Last Resort Panama, Drug and Alcohol Rehab www.Thelastresortpa.com www.facebook.com/thelastresortpa www.myspace.com/thelastresortpa www.myspace.com/tlrpa
Sunday, September 14, 2008
Drug and Alcohol Rehab, The Place to be....If you need to be....
In life we are meant to discover, in fact the reason for Rehab is not what most folks think. It is "Discovery"! Any reasonably minded individual would gather all of the facts before making any major life altering decision. Therefore, how can an individual make a prudent choice of whether they want recovery/life or what they currently live without first discovering what recovery/life is first? This is not a ticket to continue on a path of self-destruction. It is quite the opposite it is an invitation to explore what recovery can truly be.
Often the individual that is considering rehab sees it as a last resort. They have succumbed to family, friends or an employer/business partner’s pressure to get help. Personally they can’t fathom living a life of recovery. Why? Because they have no idea what to expect with a life free of “partying”. It is like losing their best friend. They believe there is nothing that life has to offer to replace the temporary joy they receive from using.
At 16 years of age I remember my mother attempting to get me to take “The Pledge” an Irish method of getting someone to stop drinking alcohol. I remember looking my mother in the eye and saying “Are you kidding me? What would life be without drinking?” If you are in recovery or know of someone that needs help you have probably heard some variation of this statement a thousand times or more! It is all we know and comprehend. It is as necessary to us as oxygen is to others. It is how we think.
Therefore, making a short-term commitment to gather all of the facts together to make a prudent decision is a much more rational approach. It is simply committing 90 days out of your life span that is probably a good 80 to 90 years. Ninety days out of ninety years? Not much to ask.
Come take the risk and explore what your real options are. Find out what it really means to enjoy life. On September 12, 2008 my good friend Jack completed 48 years free of any mind-altering substances. Have lunch with Jack or simply meet him once and you will know what it means to enjoy life and not endure it. As a matter of fact, that is Jack’s mantra “Life is meant to be enjoyed and not endured”.
Life is good. Give it the chance that you truly deserve.
The Last Resort Panama, Drug and Alcohol Rehab www.Thelastresortpa.com www.facebook.com/thelastresortpa www.myspace.com/thelastresortpa www.myspace.com/tlrpa
Often the individual that is considering rehab sees it as a last resort. They have succumbed to family, friends or an employer/business partner’s pressure to get help. Personally they can’t fathom living a life of recovery. Why? Because they have no idea what to expect with a life free of “partying”. It is like losing their best friend. They believe there is nothing that life has to offer to replace the temporary joy they receive from using.
At 16 years of age I remember my mother attempting to get me to take “The Pledge” an Irish method of getting someone to stop drinking alcohol. I remember looking my mother in the eye and saying “Are you kidding me? What would life be without drinking?” If you are in recovery or know of someone that needs help you have probably heard some variation of this statement a thousand times or more! It is all we know and comprehend. It is as necessary to us as oxygen is to others. It is how we think.
Therefore, making a short-term commitment to gather all of the facts together to make a prudent decision is a much more rational approach. It is simply committing 90 days out of your life span that is probably a good 80 to 90 years. Ninety days out of ninety years? Not much to ask.
Come take the risk and explore what your real options are. Find out what it really means to enjoy life. On September 12, 2008 my good friend Jack completed 48 years free of any mind-altering substances. Have lunch with Jack or simply meet him once and you will know what it means to enjoy life and not endure it. As a matter of fact, that is Jack’s mantra “Life is meant to be enjoyed and not endured”.
Life is good. Give it the chance that you truly deserve.
The Last Resort Panama, Drug and Alcohol Rehab www.Thelastresortpa.com www.facebook.com/thelastresortpa www.myspace.com/thelastresortpa www.myspace.com/tlrpa
Wednesday, September 3, 2008
Free "Meet the Experts" page at www.TheLastResortPa.com
The Last Resort Panama has a new feature on our web site, www.TheLastResortPa.com. It is our way of saying thank you for your support and encouragement in this venture. We are hosting a “Meet The Experts” page. At no expense to you ever, you can list your profile, credentials, contact information and a description of your product and service. We simply ask you to reciprocate with a link to our website as well, the code is emailed to you after you register.
It is extremely easy to add your information. Simply go to www.TheLastResortPa.com and under the “Professionals” Tab on the top right menu bar, click “List of Professionals”. The process will take only a couple of minutes. If you have difficulty just email Rick@TheLastResortPa.com. You can add your logo as well!
Again, thank you. We appreciate the work you do and look forward to mutually supporting one another for many years to come.
Together we can make a difference in our world, apart we are a misguided ship in a storm!
Thank You,
Dan Callahan, LMSW
Founder and Director
It is extremely easy to add your information. Simply go to www.TheLastResortPa.com and under the “Professionals” Tab on the top right menu bar, click “List of Professionals”. The process will take only a couple of minutes. If you have difficulty just email Rick@TheLastResortPa.com. You can add your logo as well!
Again, thank you. We appreciate the work you do and look forward to mutually supporting one another for many years to come.
Together we can make a difference in our world, apart we are a misguided ship in a storm!
Thank You,
Dan Callahan, LMSW
Founder and Director
Tuesday, September 2, 2008
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