Neil Young song a song in the 70's "Needle and the Damaga Done". But what if the damage has nothing to do with substance abuse? What if my impulsive behaviors have created hurt feelings or worse yet, some real damage? The same rules apply, use your tools, start with step 10 recognize, admit, amend and apologize. Make sure you talk to your mentors about what you have learned and what measures you need to use to truly amend your behavior. Use the information in your reflection to avoid the decisions that created the challenge. Then move on, focus on what is right, focus on what matters, focus on where you are going.... Beating yourself up does absolutely no good, it creates paralysis and heads you towards more unwanted results.
Put what you want in front of you, keep it there and go seize it....
You are a winner,
Dan :)
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Dan, how does one proceed with a sponsee who does not having any "god of his own understanding?" What happens when we get to step 6 "Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character" and other steps where god cannot really be the group?
Laura, That is a great question. I will be blogging on a similar issue in the next day or so.... For this issue however, here is what I believe. First, I do not pretend or ever want to be the be all and the end all authority on life, God or anything in between. Over 20 years ago I was attending college in upstate NY. It was my 5th or 6th year in a four year school! I struggled with any concept of Faith, a Higher Power, God or anything that even resembled such... In fact, after a "slip" I ran into two ladies at a store that I knew from a church basement! The one knew my name and we began t talk, the other when asked if she knew me responded, yes aren't you the fellow that has God issues? Here is what I needed to do for me. Take it one day at a time. Believe in God but believe in a very vague God. I decided that I would not analyze any aspect of it. I made a decision to not define God in any way, shape or form.
Laura, this may sound like I am attempting to avoid the question, however, I am not, I am only attempting to explain how I overcame a similar issue.
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